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Compassionate Communication: Begin with Kindness


By choosing to feel our own vulnerability, we can then accommodate the vulnerability of another.

When you reach for kindness, compassion follows. This is how you actually regulate the reactions that historically have triggered upsetting emotional responses. You can re-wire your impulses.

The next time you become aware that you are emotionally triggered by someone's problematic behavior, immediately visualize a crying child.

Access and Embrace Humanness

Bring a lost, lonely child to mind. If the image of a lost child instantly connects you to your heart, then commit it to memory. Reach around in your mind until you find a "heartconnecting" visual that will instantly make you feel compassion.

You can manage yourself in the heat of any intense moment by shifting your focus to a broken-hearted child. It doesn't matter whether the child you see is a boy or a girl. Whichever connects you to your heart is the one you will use to regulate yourself.

When you focus upon a mental image of a child in pain, you will find that no matter how upset you were a moment ago about whatever, it just doesn't have any impact. You'll find yourself literally laying it down, as you embrace the heart of the matter.

The gift is always in the giving - meaning that we receive as we give.

Research about the brain reveals that compassionate thoughts literally light up the frontal lobe of a person's brain. (The frontal lobe is where the mind can access solutions.) When we are resentful or angry, there is no light in that part of the brain, and so we shut down and fail to function well.

As soon as we deliberately reach for kindness and choose to think compassionate thoughts, this part of the brain lights up, and we can literally go from "impossible" to "possible" in an instant.

Our purpose in life is to make a difference. Kindness doesn't solve problems. It gets you into the best frame of mind and heart to reach beyond where you've gone before. It allows you to find new, creative, peaceful and healing solutions.

Whenever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness. -Seneca

Excerpt from The Power of Compassion: 7 Ways You Can Make A Difference
By Mary Robinson Reynolds
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Mary ReynoldsMary Robinson Reynolds, M.S., Educational Psychologist, Author and Producer of the world renowned Internet videos, and - both amassing over 10 million views within a few short months of their releases - spent many years as a classroom teacher K-8 and then as a counselor K-12. She parlayed her phenomenal success with youth at-risk into her programs for business leaders, entrepreneurs and managers on how to be energetically effective in leading improvement in their organizations through the power of Team Synergy and MasterMinding. She has written eight books, developed UTrain&Coach programs that anyone can take into their place of work to build organization wide Team Synergy, and has presented to over 20,000 people in two year period in every major city in the U.S. To learn more go to:

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