Winter 2001 In this Months Issue: 1.   The Power of Desire is a Key to Successful MasterMinding! 2.   We would love to give you $100 3.   Need a MasterMinding Partner?

        Well, I'm at it again! I'm still writing about the power of MasterMinding. I guess I keep hammering at you about this because it's just the most incredible tool you could use to get out there and Live Your Best Life.

        I've used it, lived it and experienced riches with it for over a decade. I have literally brought my dreams into reality with it. And it just happens to be my greatest desire that you do the same, because in this issue of SuccessBytes I've got a story about DESIRE to share with you that will convince you that you have a lot more desiring to do in this life. And 2001 is just the year to set it in motion, if ya know what I mean!

        Now, down to business.

        I promised in my last SuccessBytes newsletter that I would give you the results of MasterMinding about my son's knee injury and the remainder of his football season. The sport seasons have sped by and we are now approaching State Basketball Tournaments.

        But I want to talk first about the power of DESIRE as it relates to MasterMinding, and then I'll not only tell you about what happened in football with my son and his knee injury, I also have a free offer for you to get you started on MasterMinding. So keep reading!

        As you've probably noticed by now, I love football and basketball because it's really all about the game of life:

        A few nights ago, I was at our high school varsity basketball game with our rival team. This was a very important game because it was for second place in the conference and would have a big impact on seed placement for the State Tournaments coming up.

        The game began, and we were down by 6 points almost immediately. The other team had come in energetically and emotionally ready to play, and we were tight: too afraid to win and too afraid to lose, so our offensive shots where haphazard and our defense barely hanging on.

        I watched as our coach did a few things differently than he had in the previous games: he spent his time outs on the other teams increase in momentum. Each time they would force a turnover on us and the energy would start increasing in their favor, he quickly called a time out to interrupt the energy of their team.

This is not an uncommon ploy, but one that in REAL LIFE each and everyone of us certainly could be more mindful of, especially with how the negative momentum of disruptive or negative personalities in a work or home environment can de-energize us and make our efforts look like sludge! Like I said, life is like a basketball game in that, if we don't learn to interrupt momentum that is negative for us, it will continue to progress, making it a losing proposition!

        In the previous game, the coach didn't call his time outs with the intent of interrupting momentum, and before anybody realized it knew it, our team was down 15 points behind the number one ranked team. We lost that game by a margin of 20 points, and the talent on both sides was truly equal.

        It's all about momentum: energy in motion. When the momentum is going against you, or you are caught back into a cycle that you've repeated with someone a gazillion times, to get different results, you've got to interrupt the energy that's behind it.

        If you don't interrupt it, then you can't sustain the energy it takes to either keep up with what's going on or, overcome it.  The interruption is the Key to reassembling our desire. If we don't re-gather it, then within a very short time, you and I will collapse into states of powerlessness, and then, we just keep repeating the problem.

        By utilizing the game strategy of using time outs to interrupt momentum, our coach and his team was successful at being able to keep the deficit to only -10 points by half time.

        Half-time talks are the ultimate example of what MasterMinding is all about. I used to coach basketball, and I knew that a game could be turned around at half time if you just took control of what was really happening on the court, not give in to the appearance of defeat, and give energized uplifting directives in the locker room.

        If you have any hope of making a game out of it, it's a time to tap into the spirit of each player by taking control of the negative momentum.

        How do you take control?  By going straight for the desired result. This is no time to mince words. The desired result can come from the acknowledgement of the positive efforts of the team followed with the explanation, description, directives and expectation of exactly what they must now do to win. Some coaching methods are to berate the players and let them know how poorly they are playing. I've never used that in the locker room or on the court, and I've consistently won championships without it.

        Also, any coach who g e n e r a l i z e s during half time won't set enough energy in motion to be victorious. The same is absolutely true in setting goals, especially in a MasterMinding session.

        Get specific, get directive, get that desire revved up, and then get back out there and go after what you want with a steadfast focus and vision, with each player on your team doing the same. It is from this high level of desire that you will begin to see events unfold before your very eyes that are, well let's just use the term, incredibly serendipitous.

        I just love the power of the half-time talk! Sometimes, when I'm doing a 2 or 3 day training or boot camp, the issues are very intense, and I specifically bring them to the front burner on Day One. On the second day, the groups come back in pretty depleted emotionally because of the previous day's intensity, and they just want to have their donuts and coffee and sink into oblivion. Or back into the problem, because it's really just more comfortable there. It's exactly like what can happen in the third quarter of a game.

        In Day Two, as with the second half of any ballgame, we need just as much energy, if not more than Day One to get on top of the challenges. It takes energy to cut to the chase about the changes that need to be made, and for creating what hasn't been done before. It is in the beginning of Day Two that they get the Mary Robinson Reynolds half-time talk, because it is not my intention for them to just sit back now, and go back to settling for less than what they want. It takes guts, it takes energy, and it takes bold statements of intention.

        This is obviously what our coach did. The boys came out with new focus and heightened, sustainable energy. The opposing team came out with the mindset that was a little too calm, and maybe even a little bit arrogant, and we still had two more quarters to play.

        We outscored them in the third quarter, 13 points to 4. At the beginning of the fourth quarter, you could feel that the momentum was running high for our team. A layup in the early seconds of the fourth period game gave us a 37-36 lead.

        Here's what the opposing coach was quoted as saying in the newspaper, about the beginning of the fourth quarter. "We were tired again in the third quarter. The third quarter has been a bugaboo for us for a few weeks now. The boys were tired, but they sucked it up and brought it back."

        The statements and mindset that continue to be de-energizing to his team are:  "Tired again," and "Third Quarter is a bugaboo."

        It's not anything until you call it. Whatever you call it, that's what it will become. It's the language that builds an expectation and a repeat performance. If you call it something that has negative implications, it can stick and make havoc in your experiences.

        In MasterMinding, one of your primary jobs is to listen for language that sets up failure or a repeat performance of what you, or your partner, do NOT want.

        My son fouled out his first game of the year, two games ago.

        It's not anything until you call it. When he was ready to talk to me about his distress about it, I told him, he'd just had his ONE "foul out game" for the year, and that now that he had that done, he wouldn't have to worry about it. Your attention to a problem brings more of the problem.

        We presently have a varsity player, that has a "thing" about excessive fouls. If you watch closely, he is not doing anything in play that the other players are not doing. It is the most instantaneous and immediate energy in motion causing undesirable experiences that I've ever witnessed. He no more steps on the court, than the ref is blowing his whistle and he is the first player who is called for a foul. It's so obvious what is happening, and yet, no one is working with him on his mindset about that!

        He has huge resistance toward the refs, and it shows up in his attitude. And then energetically it's like the refs can't see anybody but him. If you've read any of my other newsletters, you will understand what I mean by focusing on the problem, and how that brings more undesirable results.

        In my soon to be released e-book, I explain exactly how energy is directed and released through ATTITUDE, and how it gets you instantaneous results, whether you meant to get results or not! The title? You Can't Have An Attitude & Keep It A Secret! —and available at:   https://makeadifference.com/TYG/index.htm?

        Having an attitude about it puts more negative energy in motion and, what you resist, persists!

        Back to the game. We took a 39-36 lead with 6:51 remaining. The game went back and forth, one thrilling basket after the other, and the momentum staying even. With 1:08 we brought the game to a one-point deficit with a three pointer. Their center hit two free throws with 39 seconds left and gave them a 48-45 lead. But we had another lay-up seconds later, cutting the margin to 48-47, and we called for a time out.

        After our time out, we headed down the court to set up our offensive play. You know the scenario, bodies flying everywhere. Out of the chaos came an unbelievably bad call, and we were charged with the foul. The energy was at it's highest intensity.

        For the shooter to make those foul shots would require a focus that would seal off the negativity that was being blasted at him from the angry crowd. It absolutely can be done, but it would require a mature and intense focus, something most young athletes are just beginning to learn about.

        Their shooter (who had been incredibly hot and consistent all night long) missed both free throws with 22 seconds left on the clock, and the crowd went wild. The energy of home court advantage was electrifying.

        Desire was great for both teams, and yet the energy of desire set in motion, now heightened from the bad call and the shooter missing both foul shots, made it feel as if the miraculous was about to happen.

        We got the ball back and tried three times to get in close before we got a shot off. It was blocked by their 6'11" center, Yon. The ball went out of bounds to stop the clock with one second left.

        There was no time for disbelief.

        There was no time for egos, only great desire. Every single player on our team wanted that ball. No one let their fear or their egos get in the way. There wasn't time to think. Often in this situation, you see players mentally praying that they don't get the ball, afraid to miss the shot. But as I looked out at this scenario, every boy on our team had his hands out-stretched desiring the ball, asking for the ball: willing and ready to take the risk for the sake of the team.

        In front of our bench, our player, Dan, looked out at his teammates, took the ball from the ref, and then inbounded the ball to his best friend Randy, who had been battling with their big hulk center, Yon, all night.

        Randy posted and spun around quickly and, from about 12 feet, got a jump shot off over the out-stretched hands of Yon as the buzzer sounded. The ball went straight through the hoop. It was a case of shameless joy as people, young and old, jumped up and down with the thrill of the amazing series of events that ultimately brought about a win for our team.

        When Randy was asked by the reporter how he did it he said, "I really don't know how I did it. I knew that Yon wouldn't foul me, but wait to try and block the shot, and I got it away."

        As you may recall from Fall Issue '00 of SuccessBytes - MasterMinding for a BreakThrough:  makeadifference.com/pages/successbytesfall00.htm , my son's knee injury during the third play of the first football game had left him just getting back on the football field after rehab'ing his knee.  

        BJ did in fact heal his knee, in what the Doctor said was record (miraculous) time. On his first game back, once again, on the third play (it was the third play of the first game, too), his own team mate took him out with an injury to the other knee! I could not believe it! AAAUUURRRRRGGGHHHHHH!!!!

        This time, it seemed worse than before, as BJ was on the field screaming in pain. They loaded him up in our Jeep (the football player smell was intense to say the least) and on the drive back to where his father was waiting with the team trainer, he asked again to MasterMind with me. I asked him what he wanted this time, and once again he said he wanted a miraculous healing, because at this point, we all thought it was going to be major surgery and major bad news for future sports.

        We arrived at the training room, where the trainer had him lay down on the examination table and started pulling and pushing vigorously on his knee. I was terribly nauseous watching her crank that knee around while anticipating that BJ would scream! He didn't scream at all, and to our complete surprise she announced that nothing was broken or torn. She said it hurt so bad because it was the knee cap that received the hit and that is often more painful than a ligament.

        BJ hobbled out to the Jeep, and as we were driving home we were both recanting his request, wondering if in fact it was a MasterMinding miracle. When he got out of the Jeep, he suddenly felt a big pop and a shift in his knee. He said it felt completely better.

        The trainer insisted that he stay out the next week of practice.

        I waited a couple of days, and then suggested to him that he didn't have to go back out for FB if he didn't want to. He really resisted the idea, but agreed that he wanted to think about it, and then Matt, the teams' quarterback, broke his ankle during practice the very next day. BJ came home and said he was ready to turn in his stuff and begin rehab'ing for BB. Freshman BB was very important to him, because his dad shifts from Varsity FB coach to Freshman BB coach, and this was something the two of them had looked forward to since forever!

        As far as academics are concerned, we MasterMind sporadically, as BJ feels the need. He's a 4.0 student and likes getting his assignments done ahead of time (he gets that from his mother of course!). But should he find academics becoming more challenging, I know he would want to increase it.

        During BB, we MasterMind before every game, and he was very happy with his results. He was recognized, mid-season, as the #1 defensive player for the team by the head varsity coach, who oversees and rates the freshmen and junior varsity BB programs.

        Through MasterMinding we have taken BJ's focus off of his knees being injured to the choice of having his knees be stronger and more flexible than ever before. The body hears everything you say, and knows everything you expect. So we expect the best and state the desired outcome.

        We MasterMind before each game, and even though his requests are similar each week, this is a time where he states out loud his intention to be a blessing to his team, to have intuitive movement defensively (this is his language, by the way), score some points and to get a lot of playing time.

        By mid-season, BJ had advanced to the starting five and remained there, earning more than enough playing time for his satisfaction and joy.

        I've had other parents write me and tell me about how they are now MasterMinding with their children, and they are have tremendous results. This is not something to force on children, but to invite them to try in order to overcome any fears they may have regarding school work, tests, friends or sports.

        As a parent, you can MasterMind either with an adult partner or with your adolescent for the strength and courage to remain drug & alcohol free and to be removed from temptations of sexual encounters. You can MasterMind for anything.

        The key here is, to let them tell you what they want, not tell them what they should want. Got it! The same goes for your adult partners.

        We do not MasterMind with our children to give them an advantage over others, but for the purpose of their knowing that they have the agreement and approval of another, and that the third invisible force, the MasterMind, has heard them and is always with them regardless of the circumstances that may or may not occur.

        In MasterMinding with a group of people that you are in business with, work with, or live with, it is the same. It's not ever about having an advantage over others. There is plenty for everyone who desires to make use of their talents and gifts.

        With the kick-off to this new year, we are making some exciting new changes at Reynolds & Associates.

        First, is our commitment to giving more free services more often through the genius ideas of my new web designer and marketing specialist, my husband, Craig Reynolds! (Come see all of the changes and additions he's made already - I may be prejudiced, but he is so great at this!)

        Second, is to complete the production of the information that we've been getting tons of requests for... and to provide you with the tools that will get you revved up out there for Living Your Best Life!

        Check out the pre-release sale of my upcoming E-books, booklets and CD/Audio albums at:         https://makeadifference.com/TYG/index.htm?

•         MasterMinding for Success e-booklet & CD/audio program
•         MasterMinding: LIGHTNING in a Bottle - ebook
•         Connecting With Colors -booklet & CD/audio program
•         You Can't Have An Attitude & Keep It A Secret! - ebook

        Hey! MasterMind with me... I'll help you set the energy in motion for the right and perfect partner(s) to come to you. Just like that! I mean it. Don't agonize about this, just make a decision about how you want it to be and then go to: makeadifference.com/pages/mastermind.htm scroll down and write in the Goals box what you desire in a MasterMind partner or group and then hit submit.
        Let me know exactly and in great detail "How You'd Like To Be" and I will act as your temporary MasterMind Partner, holding in my mind, seeing for you the desired results you'd like in achieving your present goals, and your desires to have a MasterMind partner &/or group.
        Now I mean it. Take me up on my offer! Don't just sit there in LDM (Low Desire Mode) ... come see me, that's what I'm out there for!

And as always, remember, You Are A Success!

Mary

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