The greatest gift you can give another is the purity of your attention.
The real power of compassionate attention is that it causes positive behavioral change—instantaneously.
Connection is about more than simple acknowledgment; it's about the necessity of reaching out daily to be emotionally available, through compassionate attention, to the individuals in our lives, no matter what age.
You can make a difference in how well children do, both at home and in the classroom, by the kind of attention you decide to give them.
When you remain consistent in offering attention in a positive and behavior affirming way, it becomes a "conscious" act that offers profound healing to a child. This, coupled with a decision to simply slow down and energetically connect with individuals, will create alignment that generates long-term solutions.
How you decide to give your attention will determine how easy it will be to enjoy and get along with children on through their adolescent years.
"Behavior-affirming attention" includes our true attitude behind the tone in our voice, the language we use to teach or to offer choices, and the age-appropriate expectations we put in place for children.
You'll find that the very best place to begin is with Behavior Modification's #1 Rule: Before you can change anyone else you must first change yourself.
You simply cannot have an attitude and keep it a secret!
If you don't like a child, you will not be able to work with that child successfully. You are either contaminating or contributing to an outcome based on what you've decided about any given situation.
To see an improvement that's immediate, you must change your attitude: fear, judgments, entitlement, prejudices and condescending labels. Do this, and you'll affect and heal unproductive behaviors, seeing better results than you could have imagined.
Change your attitude, and you shift the resistant energy between you and the child in an instant.
To learn how you can directly affect a child's energy, please watch my Energy Illustration video training: makeadifference.com/attitude
Excerpt from Make A Difference with the Power of Connection
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